Inspirational Series
by Nirjhar Chakravorti
When we talk about
being positive and changing ourselves towards positivity, the most basic thing
we undermine is need for change of inner soul and change of our own mindset. It
can ignite a great debate that if we change ourselves constantly then can we be
called a consistent person? Now most important aspect of the discussion is
whether we want to be a consistent person or transformed person? Probably the
answer is both. We must be consistent so that we should not lose our values and
we must be transformed so that we can be more inclusive and time driven. The
focal point of the value system is definitely humanity and probity. If we
cannot do well, we must not do badly. Knowingly or unknowingly probably
majority of us try to follow this value. Whether practically we can maintain it
or not is different issue. So if we can maintain this fundamental thought of
living, we can remain consistent forever. Now question is how we can work
towards humanity? Probably here is the importance of transformation. Constant cleaning
of our internal thought process is imperative to being an improved person which
will have increased capacity of inclusiveness. How we can transform ourselves
to be a better human being?
I
think that, it'll be prudent if I say something about myself, than what should
be the ideal scenario. Because, honestly speaking I do not know what is the
ideal situation. In the process of living, I learnt lot from life and with my
limited capabilities I tried to provide positive ambience to many who came back
to me with a positive feedback about my contribution in their life. Maybe I'm
exaggerating when saying “many”. The number may not be huge, but a handful of
people and that is also a satisfaction for me that at least I could provide
positive ambience to few people. While providing guidance to others, I needed
to be very much practical, informative; mind reader and I needed to be
analytical who can collate incidents and information to arrive certain logical
conclusion by which I can provide safe solutions to my friends. Safe solution
is essential for me as I don't want to see any of my friends in any possible
trouble in their life. But in the process of analysis of information,
unknowingly I brought up a habit of mindset which is purely based on logic
without considering emotional and diverse factor of human mind. To have a safer
conclusion, during the process of elimination of options, sometimes I become
critical to options which have potential to hurt emotional aspect of others.
When one of my very own friend, whom I consider as one of the most wonderful
and intelligent person I ever met, were hurt of my logical conclusions, I felt
enormous pain. I'll definitely not hide the fact that I had a little
mischievous and adventurous side to push to extreme corner to analyze the
behavior and sense of commitment in critically annoying environment. But in any
case, it was tormenting to see my own friend in agony. Mischievous behavior can
be controlled by me, but what about the process of analytical thinking? I had
two options: being analytical as I used to be or introduce more human factor in
my thought process where process of elimination can have human consideration as
well. Instead of pure mathematical model of decision making, let's introduce
arts with the logic as well. It's a huge shift for my model. Suddenly science
appears to be semi science. Suddenly various “Do not’s” appear to be “Yes” to
me. Decision making process becomes tougher; but interesting. It ignites me
suddenly to explore more unknowns which I could have ruthlessly eliminated
earlier. What I realized that decision making become more inclusive. I become
more acceptable to others and to my close one. But to have that mutational
change in way of thinking has gone through a certain process inside me. Critical
analysis of my own considerations was a challenge to find out possible areas of
improvements. Processing adjustment in own model of thinking is a tough task.
Because it requires minor changes in mindset and we all know that change is
always painful. It hurts self-ego and possible fear of losing respect by
others. Now question is how confident, strong and intelligent I am to accept
change and how humanitarian I am to make own friend and people around me happy
with a theory of inclusiveness. More stronger I'm I can change, more
influential I'm I can change, more dynamic I'm I can change, more intelligent
I'm I can change. On the contrary, more weak I'm I can't change, More egoistic
I'm I can't change, more static I'm I can't change, more selfish I'm I can't
change. When I was seeing a sad human face of my own friend, I felt the need
for change to pour happiness in my pal's life. So it calls for a conscious
decision in me to have minor changes in the way I analyze and help others.
Every human being changes over the period of time with increasing experience.
This change is natural and most of the time it is unconscious. But time to time
it is important for us to critically self-analyze ourselves and make few
conscious changes based on changing time frame and new experiences. Change is
only constant to this huge universe. But this change must be based on logical
understanding with human values keeping the basics of consistency of character.
This change transforms the character to be a better person who can make more
and more people happier irrespective of their nationality, religion, race,
caste, ethnicity, etc. When we should think about self-evaluation and make
internal changes if needed? It entirely depends on circumstances. In the
process of journey of life, many a time, we come across challenging situations
of various dimensions, like professional, physical, psychological, emotional,
etc. May be those challenging grids can be options for us for self-evaluation.
We need to consciously understand that how as a human being we are reacting to
the circumstances and thus need for change in our own mindset.
While reading this
topic, hope you are also trying to find out your own life experiences when you
had taken conscious decision to transform yourself to become a better person,
without much bothering about what others are doing. I wish we can have more
transformation within ourselves, in future, to achieve more peace out of our
human activities and focusing what positive we are doing instead of finding
fault in others. I'll be curiously waiting for more transformation within
myself in upcoming years. What about you?
All Photographs taken at Roman Bath, UK (Aug 2018)
